First I want to start by saying…
Where has this meditation exercise been all my life?!
I don’t even know where to start
with why I love it so much! So first I’ll just explain my experience.
I did the 10 deep breaths in and out
and then focused on my breathing as the exercise said to and chose a focal
point. I noticed the thoughts (but didn’t cling!) and returned myself back to
focus on my breathing. I laid there for what felt like a few minutes, but I
have no idea (I had not timer, I didn’t care how long this took), but the most
wonderful thing happened. I am going to use an analogy to explain… Picture a
movie, now imagine I setting it on fast-forward. That is what my mind does, it
races like a movie fast forwarding. No press play, as the images change more
slowly, that’s what my mind did. Then imagine someone just shutting the TV off.
That is what happened. My mental “TV” was finally off! I felt at ease, I felt
the weight of my body that was sunk into my bed, I didn’t move, and almost
couldn’t because I didn’t want to disturb this process. I was at peace with
myself. There was no color, no images, no thoughts… just silence. It felt like
nothing else, it was incredible to me. I could not believe how amazing this was
and that I was capable of it. Since I’ve been practicing daily I am more aware,
my focus is much better, and I don’t feel a lot of anxiety anymore. I think
this meditation needs to be done by all people with ADD or ADHD, anxiety, and
for soldiers with PTSD. Well really though, so many people could benefit from
this exercise. I know I won’t give it up.
Now how it compares to the
loving-kindness exercise, the calm-abiding had less steps to it and felt much
easier to follow and maintain. I was not a fan of the loving-kindness one, so I
told my counselor at the Veteran Affairs (VA) about it and he gave me some new
exercises. I also think that this calm-abiding should have been practiced
before loving-kindness (metta, as my counselor told me), so that we could all
learn to focus much better. Even though the calm-abiding is about stillness, it
still has helped me with focus when I am alert and not meditating. It can help
people not cling to thoughts or images, therefore I believe it’d be beneficial
to people to do first.
One of the exercises is to first
picture someone (even an animal). Then you wish them love, happiness, kindness,
safeness, and a few more. Then you turn it into wishing you both that. Then you
turn it into wishing you peace, love, happiness, kindness, and whatever else.
It’s pretty great!
The connection of between spiritual
wellness to mental and physical wellness are substantial! It takes spiritual well-being
to have better mental and physical well-being. The body can heal better, be
less stressed, and be happier (or in better condition) if spiritual wellness is
achieved. I can apply this in my own life by practicing the new meditations 1-2
times daily. When I do this practicing, as a result I can feel less pain, less
frustration, more self-love, more love for others, and less anxiety. I used to
feel this race against time, but with this calm-abiding meditation, I haven’t
felt it anymore.
I agree, this meditation exercise was really great! I liked how you explained your experience by using the analogy. You made a good point about individuals who have ADD, ADHD, and PTSD to try this exercise, I think it will definitely benefit them.
ReplyDeleteHi Kayla, thank you for reading and replying :-)
DeleteHeather,
ReplyDeleteMy reaction to this exercise was very similar to your. I was really relaxed about halfway into it and it kept me relaxed and focused which the loving-kindness exercise failed to do for me. I liked your analogy about the TV because I sometimes feel the same way. If I close my eyes there are only very rare occasions where I don't have some form of scrambling thoughts racing about like a TV on fast forward. The Subtle-mind exercise actually put me to sleep in my chair which has NEVER happened so either I was very tired that day or the exercise worked. I'm thinking it worked well :-)
Hi James, I always enjoy hearing from you, thank you for reading and responding to my post :-) glad we can relate once again!
DeleteHeather,
ReplyDeleteI share in your love for this exercise! These practices help me slow down and really take time to relax and let my mind just be. I like what you said about how physical, mental, and spiritual wellness are all connected. I really believe that you cannot be fully healthy or happy if one of these is lacking in your life. It is like a food chain or something, if one disappears, everything else suffers.
Tayla
Hi Tayla, I am glad we both share excitement for this exercise! So true about the food chain comment! I like that analogy :-) Thank you for reading and replying <3
DeleteHeather,
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately I was not the least bit successful with the Subtle Mind practice. It sounds like a wonderful experience, but I finished the practice feeling much more frustrated than when I went into it. I found focusing on breathing health and loving thoughts towards others to be much easier. Excellent blogging!